These 31 questions are the basis of a healthy relationship.
Of course, you wouldn't be with your partner if you didn't believe the relationship would last. But ĀæCan your love really work in the long run? Are you clear on the basis of a healthy relationship?In our relationship checklist you will find 31 questions to ask yourself and answer honestly to find out if your relationship is on a healthy footing.
Relationship questions around the theme of "time together and time apart".
Of course, you can't be on top of each other all the time, nor should you in a healthy relationship. Neither too much time together nor too little can lead to long-term problems for the couple. Joint activities (this does not include lying on the couch in front of the TV and keeping quiet) intensify your feelings for each other and allow you to become a unit. On the other hand, being away from each other from time to time creates the feeling of missing the other person and remembering what it would be like without them. Therefore, you should ask yourself the following questions:
1. how much time do you spend together? 2. do you occasionally do things separately? 3. does jealousy play a role in your relationship? 4. do you have fun together? 5. do you share a similar sense of humour? 6. do you like his friends and he likes yours? 7. do you have similar interests or does one of you always have to compromise when it comes to leisure activities?
In a functioning relationship, both partners realise how much they miss each other, but their own satisfaction should not depend on each other's presence. If one partner clings, feels unfounded jealousy or knows little about himself or herself when the other partner is away from home, this is very unhealthy. As a result, the other person will sooner or later feel constrained and responsible for his or her happiness. In a healthy relationship, closeness and distance balance each other out.
Couple issues on the theme of mutual acceptance and love
Ideally, your partner should also be a good friend with whom you can share all your quirks, secrets and thoughts. It does no one any good to pretend or want to change the other person; moreover, this is not sustainable in the long run. So if you yourself or your friends notice that you change negatively in the presence of your partner, you should reconsider the relationship.
Relationship questions on the theme "Mutual acceptance and love".
Ideally, your partner should also be a good friend with whom you can share all your quirks, secrets and thoughts. It doesn't do anyone any good to pretend or want to change the other person; besides, this is not sustainable in the long run. So if you or your friends notice that you change negatively in the presence of your partner, you should rethink the relationship.
9. do you really love your partner as he/she is, or do you expect him/her to change throughout the relationship? 10. do you feel accepted, wanted and loved in return for who you are? 11. are you able to show yourself in their presence as you are and let go completely? 12. have people you trust told you that you change for the better or for the worse when you are around your partner? 13. do you trust each other one hundred percent?
In a healthy partnership, both partners help each other to improve. They accept each other as they are and focus on their strengths without dwelling on their weaknesses. If one cannot cope with them, it is better to leave. Of course, you can soften certain habits, but in the end you cannot change people.
Relational questions on the topic of "argumentative culture
In a healthy relationship, no one insists on his or her rights as a matter of principle or spends his or her life harping on the other's mistakes, which he or she has long since admitted and apologised for. Easier said than done, but at least there must be a willingness on the part of both partners to resolve conflicts.
14) How do you deal with conflicts in the relationship? 15. are you both willing to compromise or do you find it difficult to resolve disputes? 16. do you have the same culture of arguing or do problems escalate quickly? 17. do you go to bed without reconciling? 18. is either of you particularly resentful or stubborn? do you use swear words in arguments?
Neither the tactic of silencing problems nor that of making a mountain out of every mouse will bring partners any closer to harmonious coexistence. It is fine to argue, but always maintain respect for the loved one rather than hitting below the belt. It is a good strategy to try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. A walk around the block often does wonders to calm tempers, rather than just acting rashly and emotionally.
Questions about sex
Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, if there is a lack of physical tenderness or if ideas about frequency and form are far apart, this will put a strain on any relationship. It is important to talk openly about your own ideas and at least take your partner's sexual desires into account.
19) How important is sex in your relationship? 20. how often do you sleep together? 21. have sexual relations changed during the course of your relationship? 22. does one partner desire much more or less sex than the other? 23. do you have similar preferences in bed or are there discrepancies? 24. do you talk about your sexual desires? 25. are you open to suggestions from your partner?
Read on to find out if you have the makings of a healthy relationship.Ā
Do you have the basis for a healthy relationship?
Using sexual deprivation as a weapon or resorting to sex to resolve disputes is equally unhealthy for a love that is meant to last. Sex should never be a means to an end, but always a way of expressing emotions and passion.
Relational questions on the topic "values and life planning
If one partner wants to have a child and the other does not, the relationship will be under severe, if not insurmountable, strain. Because, whatever decision is finally taken, one of the partners has to throw away a fundamental conviction or a lifelong dream.
26. what values do you share? 27. what are your wishes for the children? 28. where are you at in your careers? 29. do you agree on the division of roles in the relationship? 30. do you pursue similar goals and do you share the same cultural background?
It is also difficult when different cultures clash, because the parental home and background, including moral concepts, permanently shape a person. Only couples who are willing to compromise and understand each other are able to build this bridge. Another important point in any partnership is the division of roles. Who earns their bread and who takes a back seat when it matters? Clarify these issues as soon as possible so that you are not surprised by the other person's ideas later on.
Now that you have read this post you will be able to find out ifĀ you have the foundations of a healthy relationship
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